Gay men and lesbians never chose to be aroused by members of
the same sex. Few would choose to receive the ostracism and the
hatred of others that so often come with not being heterosexual.
Gay men and lesbians do choose to act or not act on that sexual
arousal. Most gay men and lesbians go through a period where
they try to become "normal" with attempts at (1)heterosexual
acts (with more or less success) and/or (2)heterosexual
relationships, often including marriage and children. Most have
tried to become straight, and therefore they know by experience
the absurdity of those who say that the goal ought to be to make
them straight.
| Tip for men who want more sex: Pay close attention to how your sexual WORDS are affecting your partner. Some words will be offensive and some will be arousing, depending upon your partner.
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Sexual arousal tends to follow emotional loving feelings.
Consider a stereotypical 24-year-old male who for many years had
sexual fantasies and dreams of sex goddess bodies. He falls in
love with a homely, overweight or flat-chested woman who then
"magically" becomes highly attractive sexually to him.
Tip for Men (Straight/ Gay/ In-Between). If you are looking for
that great body first, you may never find your life-mate. If you
love first, you will probably find the body you are with to be
highly arousing.*
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| Right/wrong and good/bad judgments about situations and others cause most of us much unhappiness every day.
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